Are you in mind principles and rules for how to treat others with you? Do not just when someone violated these principles, express their discomfort? Can you would expect from you, and you do not want or can not do it with the opposition and the "no" word? Do you feel controlled life is out of your hands? Do you feel you exploit others and constantly violate your rights? If you ever have the feeling you are certainly no boundary between self and others not specified or have unstable borders are set.